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Alternatives to Crying Yourself to Sleep

Photo By: Ashley Pena (@ashleyypenaa) || from a series showing boys expressing vulnerability

I used to have a sad playlist on Spotify. You know, the playlist you have when you just want to cry and wallow in your feelings for a bit. Mine had songs like Mystery of Love or The Night We Met on it. I’d turn it on at 1AM on Friday nights because for some reason, crying myself to sleep while watching people party their way into the weekend on SnapChat just hit differently. 

So yeah, I used to have a sad playlist, but I don’t anymore. I ultimately ended up deleting it, although not because I didn’t want to have that catalog of sad songs to pick from when I needed a good cry, but because in my case, I didn’t need it. I didn’t need to be listening to Mystery of Love at 1AM, crying and trying to rant to my friends about problems that they couldn’t possibly solve due to the fact that they were dealing with the same thing. 

And if you’re anything like me, if you’re tired of holding your breath so you won’t burden anyone with noise, you don’t need that catalog of songs either.


Watch those guys on YouTube build pools.

Do your makeup. 

Paint your nails. 

Bake something. I recommend slutty brownies, the ones with the layer of Oreos and chocolate chip cookies. 

Go online shopping. You don’t have to buy anything. 

Try origami. 

Meditate. It doesn’t have to be this whole, elaborate thing. I mean, unless you want it to be. Don’t worry about doing it right. Just sit still and let your thoughts pass, calmly observing them without judgement. 

Listen to Bleed Magic by I Don’t Know How But They Found Me. It’s a really upbeat song, one you can jump around to. 

Spend some time outside (but you probably shouldn’t do this at 1AM).

Make some music of your own. 

Daydream. Create your dream life in your head and decide what you can do to make that dream a reality. 

Take a shower. 

Watch people review products on Youtube, even if you don’t plan on buying a single thing. 

Scroll through TikTok. 

Plan out your dream vacation.

Make a fort with pillows and blankets. 

Write. Write down your feelings or write a story or write something completely random. Whatever you want. 


Reach out to someone. Don’t feel guilty for waking them up, no matter how late it is. If they truly care, they will listen and love you. They might not be able to solve your problems, but they will make sure you don’t face them alone.

Acknowledge the way that you feel. Don’t wallow in the pain, don’t drown yourself in the sadness. Allow the emotions to exist, because this list isn’t about pushing away your feelings. This is about allowing them to be but not letting them linger. Cry if you need to cry, rant if you need to rant, but don’t let that be all you do. You are worth so much more than that. 

Tell yourself that you are a beautiful, extraordinary, miracle of a human being over and over again until you believe it.

Written By Kennedy Kelis

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